Frazel/Neil
they/whatever's current
Please read the pinned post!
Warning: Excessive use of exclamation points!
Hi! I’m Frazel! (fray - zull, rhymes with hazel) or Neil!
I’m a bi aroace, queerplatonic, genderfluid enby (hitting almost all the boxes here).
I like using they/them at all times but I slap on an additional set at times, so ask if you want (it usually conforms to my gender).
this user was not given an invitation to their best friend(?)’s birthday and was s being really brave about it (<- has not told anyone irl for fear of broken heart)
o/ <- person waving
o7 <- person saluting
ol <- person raising hand
o1 <- person scratching head
\o> <- person stretching
\o/ <- woohoo!
<o> <- EXTREME STRESS, LIKE "OH FUCK OH SHIT" STRESS
orz <- the person is on their hands and knees, on the floor, god what happened to them
OTL <- same, but we are now closer to them (mb softly pat their back or something)
or2 <- the person is still on their hands and knees but they've got a fat ass now
some cute/funny gerard donelan cartoons that i just found looking through an archive of them and i havent seen reposted yet
frazelforever asked:
Yesterday, someone I know asked if I was on t (he’s cishet) whilst motioning to my face, referring to the fact that I have the beginning of a beard going. I’m not on any hormones, I’ve just been trying very hard not to mess with any hair growing on my face for about a year, so it made me really excited that it is starting to be more noticeable to non-queer people that don’t know me too well! Especially bc this weekend I noticed it growing more on my cheeks and not just under my chin!
our-queer-experience answered:
congrats, that sounds like a nice interaction!
you know what my favorite part about being trans is? the glorification of average, ‘nonapealing’ things.
i love my saggy arms and the fat on my bell and the thin wisps of hair on my face and my acne and hairy legs and messy hair and unkempt nail and stretch marks and surgery scars and square and flat stare and bushy eyebrows. these things bring me so much joy and they make me feel at home in my body. i wouldnt trade them for teh world <3
for me, a huge part of learning to love trans bodies including my own was to learn to love the bodies that are considered unconventional and promote them. i couldnt really love trans bodies until i loved regular bodies and those two emotions are intrinsically tied for me now.
If you live in the US and you have a phone you need to keep secret for any reason, make sure that it is turned off at this time.
Yes, I'm doing this months in advance, and yes, my blog has very little reach, but I figure better to post about it more than less.
Please reblog and add better tags than mine, I'm bad at tags.
OCTOBER 4, 2023
TURN OFF YOUR OTHER PHONE AND DO NOT TURN IT ON AGAIN UNTIL YOU ARE ALONE AND SAFE BECAUSE THE ALARM WILL COME THROUGH AS SOON AS THAT PHONE IS POWERED ON.
AGAIN I REPEAT:
If this doesn't make sense, then good news it's not for or about you but still reblog it because you never know who may need to know this.
Reblog and add more tags.
we gotta start using the word “transexual” to reffer to the sex of people who no longer physically resemble their birth sex after treatment bc the whole “sex and gender are different!” did immeasurable damage on y’all’s understanding of hrt and srs’s affects on the body.
yall have started using “transitioning to intersex” and. not only is that not possible. but WE HAVE HAD A WORD FOR WHAT YOU’RE TRYING TO DESCRIBE FOR DECADES
despite it all im glad i get to live in a world with weird faggots. at least we have each other.
Anonymous asked:
LABLES ARE DESCRIPTIVE NOT PERSCRIPTIVE CAN WE SERIOUSLY PLEASE STOP POLICING EACH OTHERS LABLES AND EXPERIENCES?
our-queer-experience answered:
^^^
More of a vent post tbh, but I really wish being aromantic was talked about more in our society. I wish it was seen as normal.
Growing up I always felt like there was something wrong with me, because I was surrounded by so many romance tropes in media and I had never really been able to feel those feelings myself. Everyone around me was falling in love or having crushes and I used to pretend I had fake crushes on people, just to be seen as normal in front of my friends.
Looking back on that it feels really heartbreaking, newer generations of aros deserve better. I’m glad we have more of a community now.
Anonymous asked:
Anon who sent the lovely ask about how much they love their partner you almost made me tear up I'm really happy for you and grateful you have each other
our-queer-experience answered:
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I am so tired of people bringing up the “but it’s only 1%” argument when intersex people are mentioned.
There are 8 billion people on this planet. 1% of 8 billion is still 8 million people- which is a bigger number than you can even imagine.
We aren’t that rare, you just like using that as an excuse to continue being ignorant about how sex and gender work.
I don’t think it’s fully possible to embrace nonbinary people until you stop thinking of men as the opposite of women and of masculinity negative femininity and vice versa. Like. Honestly it was a ridiculous belief to begin with, we’re not an incredibly sexually dymorphic species to begin with and men and women (even cis men and women!) are far more similar than different. Until you stop thinking of men and women as inherent opposites you can never accept bigender people or people who combine masculinity and femininity or people who hold manhood in some ways and womanhood in others. And honestly it’s a kind of heteronomative viewpoint anyway
i-amtransexual
lexicled
o/ <- person waving
o7 <- person saluting
ol <- person raising hand
o1 <- person scratching head
\o> <- person stretching
\o/ <- woohoo!
<o> <- EXTREME STRESS, LIKE "OH FUCK OH SHIT" STRESS
orz <- the person is on their hands and knees, on the floor, god what happened to them
OTL <- same, but we are now closer to them (mb softly pat their back or something)
or2 <- the person is still on their hands and knees but they've got a fat ass now
